5 things I learned from incomplete romantic chapters
Ever take a hammer and break your hearts into pieces? Ever left without ever confessing? Or do you just speak your heart out knowing your life will never be the same again and not in a good way?
Ever had to move on from an incomplete love story? Or was the love story just in your head all along? And you never acted upon it.
I am sure we have all been through either unexpressed heartbreaks or unanswered romantic gestures and neither of us really knew what to do about them.
Well, I have had quite some of my share in the field and this is what I have learned so far.
The unofficial Friendship band
Let’s admit making friends is just ignoring the storm coming your way while you build a mud house. You know you like someone, and try to be friends so that you get to stay close to the person without getting rejected? Don’t you think that is feeding yourself a slow poison? Falling for your friends and falling for someone and trying to be their friend are two different things. The first one can be justified even if you don’t confess, because you might not want to ruin a good friendship. But the latter one is pure lying. Lying to yourself and to them. Sorry for the sharpness, but cut the crap. Tell them upfront or keep it to yourself, but don’t fool yourself and them by being friends, when you both know that the volcano will burst out one day.
The Knod to a Stranger
You distance yourself as much as you can. Maybe they are a colleague, college-mate, or neighbor. But you try to cut yourself out of the picture until it is just smiling and knods when you accidentally run into them. Well, it all sounds very classic and romantic, but it's not. Why not just tell them or at least find the right moment to deliver a HI! Untaken chances are like the incomplete poetry or novels left on a hook. Too dramatic, but never healthy when it is in your own life.
We need to talk
The confrontation. Though I personally think this is the best way to let yourself have a chance and be honest, it has its own side effects. And you know them too, REJECTION. And it will break your heart, maybe crush you into pieces but once you muster up the strength, do it. There is no escape from the box until you face your fears. Only one closed chapter can open another one.
Holding on and letting go
Are you guys on again, off again? No one knows if you are friends or not or maybe or something else. It can be good, it can be bad. And it is the highest form of incomplete. So complete it at your own pace. If even one of you knew that it is toxic to stay like this, one of you might have already left by now. If you think, what you guys have is not healthy, give it up. Or if you like the way you feel and if you love the person you are when you are around that incomplete chapter, why not face it slowly and upfront. We know love takes time to bloom but withers away in one flash of a moment. So decide, whether this bud is worth blooming slowly or it is just a stale flower that’ll wither as soon as the sun comes out.
Keeping them alive into memories or obsessions
This is kinda the last stage for all of us who never had luck in our incomplete love stories. We can let them go, and hold a piece of them in our hearts. After all, if it was meant to happen, it would have happened and you tried your best to make it work. It is time to let go, maybe if you are lucky you can still be there as their emergency contact number or a midnight call when they need you. But it is not love if it only makes you happy and is never there to hold their tears.
And if they are unlucky, then they’ll become your obsession. I never knew this existed before someone pointed it out to me. I have not really explored this section of life’s library. But I know one thing for sure, if your love is a thorn stuck in their neck and they can’t swallow it, neither can they get rid of it, it is an obsession. And if your love is like a rose buried deep in their diary of unspoken confessions, it was and will always be an epic love story even if incomplete.
